Sunday, May 28, 2006
The rest of Yesterday..

My younger son & I saw this yesterday (because we love Horror Flics) and while it was his idea (I was pushing for Poseidon) and I didn't have very high hopes, the film was enjoyable enough. We hit Taco Bell for lunch and then watched a bit of National Treasure back here at the condo. We also talked a bit about what happened yesterday, he is as confused as to what I have done to warrant the outburst as I am, but in any case we had a great time just hanging out. Having him with me yesterday helped much.
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After dropping my son off I came home, made some dinner (A Mexican type concotion with grilled Chicken, some frozen vegetables, Salsa and Rice) and then signed on to one of my sites to answer a couple genealogical inquiries. Interestingly enough, a notable Hollywood film producer has discovered roots in my late grandmother's native Sicilian village and needed some assitance in researching his lines further. We were both very pleased with the results of the research, tracing his family back about 150 years rather quickly.
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Haven't really had time today to put a post together, I woke up rather late, my son and I have been pretty busy driving around looking for some hot Pepper plants for my Aunt, eating lunch and watching movies. It's really amazing spending some one on one time with him for a change, we have rarely had the chance in the past. Tomorrow is another day and well, a more substantial post.
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Laters :)
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21 Comments:
No telling what brought all that on. I admire you in that you're able to keep focused on what's important with your son, and not react to the rejection. I hope he can work through whatever it is that's troubling him. When he does, I know you'll be there for him. 'Cause that's how you really are.

Blogger Kiss My Mike said...
Hey Jim, So sorry to hear about the incident with your older son. I really hope that you two will be in good terms again!

Blogger Michael said...
I'm glad to hear that you had such a good day with your son. Funny thing is that I was making fun of that movie recently because of the WWE guy that stars as the villian...and the fact that I'm planning on seeing it because I'm a horror nut myself ;)

Blogger JR said...
I really enjoy your blog. I think is well written even when you say your in a rush. Nice work and I look forward to reading more.

Blogger castor said...
Great that you've had a nice day with your younger son :-)!

Blogger Kalvin said...
I think it's good that you had time to spend with your son. I hope that you are feeling better, but I realize it must be a difficult time. Sounds like a fun day though. *hugs*

Blogger CHUYS said...
Ive read a couple of your posts. Ive learned a little about you. Keep blogging!

Anonymous Chris said...
My boyfriend LOVES Taco Bell.

Blogger Signalite said...
You've just gone through one of my worst fears. I commend you for your vigilance and compassion. Stay strong sir!

Blogger Donald said...
Sounds like you and your younger son had a great. As I've said before, I get the impression yu are a caring, loving dad. Hope you're enjoying your long weekend.

Blogger dirk.mancuso said...
I'm sorry to hear about the problems between you and your son. I hope that someday (soon) he will realize that he is lucky to both have a father who loves him and wants to spend time with him. Having not had a dad who filled either criteria, I can say he is more blessed than he knows.

Take care.

Blogger Miz BoheMia said...
When I was in therapy, I learned from Mama E (yes, she blogs now) that we often lash out this way at those we get unconditional love from... I went through a phase where I was just an absolute shit with my husband... I really said nasty things to him and was vicious and the next day would wake up as though with a hangover, barely remembering what I had done and why...

I had my own issues and rage that I had bottled in that needed to come out and I was taking it out on my husband as deep down I knew I was safe and no matter what, he would be there and never leave me....

Your eldest loves you passionately, I am sure of this, is probably going through some confusing times (isn't he a teen, or about to be one?) and is lashing out at you, his safety net... all I can say is just keep loving him, keep your cool (easier said than done I am sure! And this coming from fiery me!) and once he sorts it all out, in time, you will have him back...

The unfortunate thing is that this society of ours is too screwed up with its double standards and discrimination and being a child you actually have to come to terms with someone being gay (as stupid as that is!) and he probably is facing issues of sexuality and his own feelings and growing up and seeing things with his own eyes (although man, at that age you think you see things clearly but later will know you know nothing and were just beginning the journey!) and realizing that his dad isn't perfect and needing to come to terms with that... add to that peer pressure and... KABOOM...

You were at the receiving end I am afraid! Stay strong! You are such an amazing father PG that there is no other alternative for him to not come back to you! Hope you are doing well with it all and not beating yourself up over anything! Much love!

Blogger Hanuman1960 said...
I'm sorry to hear about the incident as well, Jim.

I'm hoping that he'll come around.

I'm glad that your other son was a comfort to you. Maybe he can talk some sense into his brother.

Be well my friend. :)

Blogger barefoot_mistress said...
Oh man PG, I am so sorry about that.....he needs to work all that out in his head I guess...and yeah, I agree with what Daniel, the Guy in the Desert said...
No telling what brought all that on. I admire you in that you're able to keep focused on what's important with your son, and not react to the rejection. I hope he can work through whatever it is that's troubling him. When he does, I know you'll be there for him. 'Cause that's how you really are~


Amen to that! It's gonna be ok, PG....and BTW, about your list down there, I love food so spicy that my face turns all red, I sweat and sometimes even have to lie on the floor to recover:P

Blogger Tallguy said...
oh, teenagers!! What are we to do with them??? The only good thing is that they eventually grow out of it.

Hey, did you know that Tracey Ullman has a new book out --- of knitting patterns? Who would have ever thought!

Blogger Atari_Age said...
Geez, PG, I'm so sorry about that... Some of the things you're mentioning sound alot like some of the issues I had with my dad, most of them trivial, some of them real. All the music stuff - kinda the "don't try to be like me I'm nothing like you I hate you" thing.

There's all the other issues underneath, of course.

The important thing is I'm guessing he doesn't have a solid view of about you being gay - YET. But more of the poisoning of his mind by your ex and her husband and he has a strong likelyhood of hating everyone who is gay - even though his issues are with you and don't really have to do with you being gay at all.

I hope I'm wrong about that, but I've heard this story before.

I really hope, over time, you can make peace with him.

Anonymous Thom said...
I'm glad you and your younger son had a nice day together. It's great that you can react in such a loving way to what is surely a very painful situation with your older son. I think that when he is able to work through whatever issues he is having, he'll realize that he is in fact lucky to have a father like you. My thoughts are with you all.

Blogger Jim said...
Jim, that was the perfect response to your son actions (its an age of confusion, I think), hopefully the message will be received :)

Blogger David said...
Hey guy,

Sorry I've been so behind in your blog. Hopefully some day your son will realize the wonderful Dad he has. You are a real father in every sense of the word.

Blogger dave in cleveland said...
hey jim i just read about the outburst with your son, dude there is no telling what started it, only he can tell you, just hang in there and know that you love him unconditionally and let him know that, and yes you are an awesome dad, and don't you forget that my friend......and taste in music has nothing to do with "growing up" and keep the shaved head, i just turned 55 couple weeks ago, shave my head, sport an earring and listen to pretty much same stuff as you, so, age is just a number and thats it.....here for you and will keep you and your sons in my thoughts.........:)

Blogger dave in cleveland said...
oh and go see poseidon...awesome movie and josh lucas not too bad to look at either......and you have to get the new daniel powter cd...my fave song...had a bad day...has become kinda my theme song

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