Friday, June 02, 2006
The 2 minute post...
It's 7:18, I just woke up, sitting here drinking tea and smoking the days 1st cigarette. I have this routine every morning which I try and adhere too which requires me to get into the shower no later than 7:20 in order to have sufficient time to get everything done before I leave. I am the worlds worst procrastinator, although if I stick to this 7:20 schedule, I am hardly ever even 1 minute late.
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7:20 shower
7:30 feed the cat
7:35 make my lunch
7:40 get dressed
7:45 depart
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I usually need like 13 minutes to get to work from here (as opposed to 25 from the old house) because it's all highway door to door. Today is a bit different because I have a dentists appointment (my first and only necessary root canal) and I should also pack my tooth brush and floss as well. I am so not looking forward to this, thank god I have dental insurance.
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shit it's 7:26 already, I guess the cat can wait to eat until I get home
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Laters :)
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Thursday, June 01, 2006
On the value of ambition ..
So I have been training this kid at work, the owner's nephew, and also the grandson of our Company's late founder. He's a great guy, bright, friendly, courteous, really fun to work with etc. However, I have noticed one thing which I believe rings true with many children of affluent families (tho certainly not all) and that is the absence of what many would term Ambition, or more specifically the valuation of money.
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He is incredibly spoiled, as was his mother from what I understand, never having the fear of poverty or "going without" he works as a direct result of his parent's (rather late) insistence that he do so (and only for a couple months in the summer), and should he not, certain material possessions will be withheld. It is a strange way to forcibly motivate one's child, but I see it repeatedly in him. I suppose the argument can be made that given his families wealth, ambition is not something he will need to survive in his later years, but I have come to believe that ambition in fact does not merely serve to provide a stable income, but more importantly is directly related to our sense of well being and emotional security. Essentially if we are successful as a direct result of our own motivation, I firmly believe we are in a much better place because we can look back and say that we have achieved this on our own merits and not as a result of outside generosity.
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We have several employees in our office who are in their late teens/early 20's and the difference between them and this kid is like night and day. In all fairness, the owner's own children, who in fact should expect an inheritance one day at least 3 times that of their cousin are in fact incredibly motivated, and while they also work for the company, there is a drastic difference in attitude and "responsibility". The sense that they are spoiled is never there, and should you not know who they are, the idea would never enter your mind. The important difference is in the way that they were raised. Their father, like his father before him works long, hard days, is in the office nearly 6 days a week and while he was certainly born with many advantages, it is not apparent in any form. He is directly responsible for the greater portion of his own personal success, having taken the company his father established and increased it in size 4 times over.
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So what is it that motivates us to become independent and likewise the desired "achiever"? My experience has been that it is in fact perhaps the necessary "push" in which some wealthier parents fail to establish which sparks this drive. That "push" involves instilling into children both the value of money and also that without hard work your life will be a constant financial struggle.
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I am reminded of something my mother always told me while I was growing up, and that was that my own father never really pushed himself because he was counting on the inheritance of his grandmother and parents and likewise always had his affluent parents to run to if things got difficult. She said that he became obsessed with it his entire life and in the end, this destroyed him. He passed away a broken and dependent man at age 41. She wanted to make sure I would never fall victim to the same mindset, so she discouraged my late father's family from helping me financially over the years.
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As you can imagine I fought her at every turn, not understanding her motivation (naturally) and turning to them when things became difficult. She told me some day I would understand, and mom, you were right. I wish I had listened and become more like you. I mean honestly, how can you truly value money when it's given to you freely and without question for your entire adult life? Sure the motivation on the part of those who spoil their children is noble (generally) but in essence it does far more harm than good.
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I guess unless you've been there you can't fully appreciate what I have been rambling on about for the last hour. I had summer jobs (at the insistence of my mother) starting at age 17, I spent the money as soon as I got it, and well, working at an amusement park was more fun than work. I was there for 3 months every summer from age 17 to 22, and that was essentially my work experience up to that age. Then I got married, and needed to find a full time job, which I did twice as the result of family members finding these positions for me.
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I am still at the latter of these two positions, same room, same office, same 8 hours. I don't have so many bills, mainly Cable, Electric, Condo fees and cell phone (and of course Child support, which I have personally arranged to deposit directly into my ex-wives account weekly through human resources) but honestly some times it's a struggle to make the utility payments on my meager income. My condo is owned by a realty trust set up recently for me by my Father's family. So what have I independently accomplished in my life?? eh... reading back on this post I'm not so sure.
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Laters
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