Friday, April 28, 2006
3...2....1...KABOOOM

Last night, at about 8something PM
my ex-wife found this place while searching google for
"Congamond Lakes Southwick".
Not surprising as this was our mutual hometown.
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While I have never really talked too much about her here, she did make two comments and in a quick gut reaction I deleted my blog entirely. There were a couple reasons for this, primarily because my day to day life during the week is of no concern to her, and well in her typical vindictive style (which these aforementioned comments clearly illustrate) she decided to step in and "defend" herself and set the record straight , two sides to every story etc. Her name has never been mentioned directly and well the truth is the truth, she just enjoys putting her own spin on it. The second and most important thing that I considered was the whole HNT (Half-Nekkid Thursday) thing and how it might be perceived to someone unfamiliar with blogging. I've been growing uncomfortable doing it lately (as I mentioned a week ago) and well that's over with at this point. The most I ever showed was a bit of underwear anyway It was a harmless expressive "fun" routine a gazillion of us took part in weekly, but which to be honest really conflicted with my blog content. I am glad I don't feel compelled to do it anymore.

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ya know the more I think about this the more pointless it becomes. I am (have already) removing the whole discussion over her comments. This thing is turning hurtful and negative.
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Laters :)

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35 Comments:
Blogger Hanuman1960 said...
I'm so sorry Persian Guy.

There were so many wonderful entries...what a shame...

Well, as the Buddha said, "everything changes"...

So, is this the end of your blogging?

Blogger dave in cleveland said...
please tell me this does not mean you are ending your blog my friend....so sorry about all this and if this is the end will miss your handsome face each morning as i read your entries with my coffee
later my friend......:)

Blogger Steve said...
I will add to the choruses that would experience sorry if this meant an end to your blogging.

I would understand but would still be sad.

Take care man...and know you are loved.

Steve

Blogger Steve said...
sorrow* not sorry...

Oops...

Blogger Scott E D said...
Call me NOW!

Blogger Kevin said...
We all do what we must. If this is the end, I do hope that you have considered me a friend, or at least a decent acquaintence, although we've never really talked outside of comments.

Feel free to drop me a line sometime since we have a slightly similar marital background ...

Blogger Kevin said...
... and cuz I always thought you were hot. :)

Blogger NeiLDC said...
OMG, It getting beyond Pale,i hope that this was not the end of eveything, i know that there is a lot of thing to place in but you should have to speak out.. I hope that it would be okay. At the end of the day, you are still a friend. ill be missing someone like you upon reading my blog...
take good care!and email me if there are any problem!

Blogger Sandouri Dean Bey said...
i'll assume that you'll continue blogging, since you were always pretty prolific.

your ex sounds like a real bitch. and it's totally not clear why she thinks you're pale. you're rather swarthy, my friend :)

Blogger Nick said...
How can "ex-persian pale chick" say nothing good has ever come out of that house? I think the best thing for you both was the divorce. Her trying to undermind you or belittle you as she did in her anonymous post. Imagine being with her for 20 years and living with THAT?? It would definately make me gay (if I wasnt already). It would make me want to end it all and jump off a bridge. I have been reading your blog since day one, and you seldom ever talked about your ex-wife, and when you did on those rare occasions, it was not done in vain or spite. First of all, no one knows who "ex-persian manchick" is, however 99% of the people that read and comment on your blog either know you or have gotten to know you over these months, so what she did was wrong in my eyes, to try to "set the record straight" as she says. There are more tactful ways to convey her message she wanted to deliver.

Another thing, you got married at a young age, while she was pregnant...If she hadnt gotten pregnant, where exactly would she be living, at her parents house? Rather than bitch and moan about what the house was or wasn't, she should be greatful that your family cared enough to ensure that you and your family had a place to live, EVEN AFTER you seperated for the year or so she lived there without you RENT FREE!

As far as how much you make, WHO FREEKIN CARES! You make an honest living, and she gets her support every week and then some. How many deadbeat dads do we see on the news?? You are far from that.

You have your life she has hers, and the only thing that should matter is your kids.

Blogger . said...
Hey guy...I am sure if my X-ever found my blog (I thought she did once but since there was no comment I doubt it cause I am sure she couldn't say SOMETHING similar), it would be much worse.

I hate it that you deleted everything as there was some great stuff in your posts. I hope you still blog. i think you are a great person and a great dad and nothing she said changed anything you already said. I have read all your posts AND remember those 2 and trust me when I say you have been much nicer than I have concerning your X-wife.

Hang in there. Call me if you need to talk.

I'm still here...a friend.

Blogger Sangroncito said...
WOW! You even deleted the sidebars with all the genealogy.

I shut down my blog in early January (shut down as opposed to delete--I put all the posts on "edit", which made them disappear from the blog but didn't delete them). I was feeling pressure from a small group of girls who were getting on my case about hanging out with their "straight" boyfriends in Salvador. My "shut down" blog lasted about two days and then I said "screw you" to them and put the entire blog back up (by changing the posts from "edit" back to "publish").
I hope you continue to blog because I enjoy reading your posts. I agree that the HNT was a distraction. This could be an opportunity to make your blog exactly how you want it. Hugs, Sango

Blogger Kalvin said...
Maybe you could think of the blog as a mandala sand painting...http://www.mysticalartsoftibet.org/Mandala.htm...it's sad that it's gone (oh, I was going to talk about permanance but, I'll stop)...in any case, people are people, and I wish people would stop thinking that you feel in love with a person at a fixed point in time. People change and people can become more honest or dishonest with themselves. I think what you're doing is admiarable. (PS, I'm surprised you knew about the filing of exemptions, as supposedly that's the number one IRS complaint that both parents claim a child...well, not surprised, but most people don't know about it until after they get the letter back...)

Blogger BriteYellowGun said...
I've often wondered/worried about family or friends discovering my blog. It's so strange that we put these things out there for strangers to read but we don't want the people who REALLY know us to ever see them. I've often considered taking down some of my archives just because there are things in them I don't know how I feel about anymore but for now they are still up there. Personally, if I ever came upon a blog of someone I knew personally, I honestly would NOT read it. These are like personal diaries and there are just some things I don't want to or don't need to know about the "real" people in my life. Sorry that your ex couldn't respect that same privacy for you.
Keep blogging!

Blogger Kiss My Mike said...
i'm sorry to hear about this incident Jim!

you have your reasons for deleting your blog, and you have my support for that. after all, the most important priority is your self first.

i hope this wouldn't be the end to your blogging though.

Blogger Michael said...
I'm so sorry to hear about this. I just recently discovered your blog. Hope you can work things out and keep on blogging.

Blogger Brad said...
Jim. What I want to say my friend is to lengthy for here, so I just put a post up on my blog about this.

Blogger Jacky said...
Been there done that, got the T-shirt!

Nothing like starting with a new slate!

Blogger Thom said...
I hope you won't give up your blog. I've really enjoyed reading it since I came across it a few months ago. I'm not sure what the issue is with the HNT photos. Yours were always in extremely good taste (which is a complaint, by the way)!

Blogger DanNation said...
Come back!

Blogger Moosekahl said...
Could it be "Ex Persian Pale Chick"? Or is it? Why hide if you're so truthful? 10% Charlie "Nick" seems to know an quite a bit about the ex,did he read it on the blog? He's got a face only a mother could love...Don't let me stop you from jumping off that bridge...

I've wondered what would happen if my ex came across mine. I think he would find that I have grown a great deal and in spite of the hurt he put me through, done well for myself. Sometimes I almost hope he does find it. Anyway...take care of you first.

Blogger Polt said...
You gotta do what's right for you and yours. I think it's a shame you deleted it all, you had some enlighted and enlighting posts on there.

I hope you continue blogging. Yours were always of great interest for me to read. But if you can't, I understand your reasons.

Hang in there, love ya, man.

Blogger T. Johnston said...
Thinking of you... at least there is AIM. My thoughts are with you.

Blogger Phoenixboi said...
I can understand why you did it bello. It wasnt her you were thinkin of neither was it yourself. You were thinking about your kids and that is something that people with some vidictivness could just use against you.

It all sucks. Im upset cause I wont be able to read about you on here, but mate.. I am so thankful that I got to "meet" you through this. Noone or anything can ever take that away.

You have touched my life in ways that might seem impossible, but always know that I am here for you and will always ALWAYS be your mate.

I love you. Talk with you soon.
BIG BIG BIG HUGS!!
xoxoxox

Blogger Donnie said...
What a shame that you had to get rid of everything. It was an amazing blog. I hope you don't disappear forever - you are too wonderful to do that, but I would certainly understand any decision you make. Hugs and Kisses to you.

Oh PG,
I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles with your ex. I was married once, in a former life, and I know how the most innocent and unintentional things can become a catalyst for a firestorm from Hell. I was fortunate in that we didn't have children, that complicates it terribly. You sound like you're holding up through it all. I just want to hold you until you feel better. I like your blog, and hope you can continue with it. You know, it could be a really cool opportunity to completely start it over all new.
love,
DEL

Blogger Laurie said...
That stinks... just as I discovered your blog. But I understand why you did what you did.

Blogger castor said...
Great that you'll continue your blog! I know similar stories home made by my ex-wife! Don't let it get you down, keep your tail up, Jim!

“The enemy is like a woman, weak in face of opposition, but correspondingly strong when not opposed. In a quarrel with a man, it is natural for a woman to lose heart and run away when he faces up to her; on the other hand, if the man begins to be afraid and to give ground, her rage, vindictiveness and fury overflow and know no limit.”


Ignatius of Loyola
1491-1556

Blogger Steve said...
I wondered what was up when I stopped by here yesterday... I had no idea. A huge hassle, I'm sure, and hopefully she'll just let it go. But then again, since I don't know anything about women, maybe she won't. Good luck.

Blogger Donald said...
I am so sorry to hear about this. Your's was the blog I read daily, as it was always the most interesting. I hope we can keep in touch somehow.

Blogger Jim said...
Whew! I'm glad you're back! I was hoping that what was going on yesterday was just a techno problem. Yours is one of the very best blogs on here. Like many others, I read it everyday and it's always thought provoking. And always honest. You give us a great example of what a good human spirit is by the way that you honor your boys, your folks, your Grandmother, etc.
Blog on brother Jim!

Blogger tornwordo said...
Sorry to see you go.

Blogger Derek said...
I"m glad your still going to be blogging, I've been thinking about changing things over at mine as well. I feel like the HNT was fun, but it's just not me. I mean I still like to show off in the showers at the gym. Just kidding, I don't even do that anymore. Love your blog guy! And all those past HNT's are forever etched in my brain. :)

Blogger Onanite said...
Sorry you had to delete your blog, it was very interesting, but I understand. Would't be great if people could just move on in their lives and leave eachother alone.

Hopefully you will still post here.

Onanite

Blogger The_Gay_Dude said...
I can relate.....and it's why I said that alotta things I speak about have negative consequences for my family.....and it's why I've gotta get more creative.....in not 'indirectly linking' family with my stories....

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